With Thanksgiving just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to slow down and focus on gratitude—the simple yet powerful act of being thankful. In Judaism, we call this value Hakarat HaTov, which means recognizing the good. It reminds us to notice and appreciate the blessings in our lives—both big and small—and to express thanks for them.

In The Gratitude Jar by Kristin Wiens, we meet a young girl who learns that writing down things she’s grateful for helps her see the good all around her. On hard days, she can pull out one of her notes and be reminded of the people, places, and moments that make her smile.

You can bring this idea to life at home with your own family gratitude jar inspired by Hakarat HaTov. Using the prompts below, invite your child to write or draw (with your help if needed) their answers:

A person I am grateful for is…

A place I am grateful for is…

Something I can do that I am grateful for is…

Something I am grateful for today is…

A memory I am grateful for is…

As you gather with family this Thanksgiving, take a few moments to share what everyone is thankful for. When the inevitable “it’s not fair!” or “terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day” comes along, revisit your gratitude jar together. Reflecting on these notes of gratitude—your own practice of Hakarat HaTov—can help bring perspective, calm, and a reason to smile.

Amy Helman-Darley is the Director of Nurture and Community & Engagement Manager at The Davis Academy. She is passionate about strengthening families and building community. Her creativity, positive attitude, high level of energy, and integrity allow her to focus on developing relationships of trust with families. She is married to Michael and has four young children.